Week 49: Craft #52Ancestors
My mother’s mother (“Nana”) was the craftiest person I ever knew. She had an old White sewing machine which she used to make pretty crinoline dresses for me and my sister and the awnings for her house (no lie). She also had a green, green thumb and grew the most glorious hydrangeas in her back yard. She was such a great cook that our family cherishes many of her recipes to this day. When we were kids, a friend of hers gave Nana tons of grapes for jelly. I don’t know how many jars of jelly she made, but they lasted our family of seven almost an entire year – we would just be running out of jelly when the new batch would arrive. I remember being fascinated by the huge jelly-making productions. I distinctly recall the paraffin she used to seal the jars and how you had to be careful when you broke it not to get the wax all in the jelly.
Born on 13 April 1891 in Newark, New Jersey to Charles Edward Spencer and Mary Josephine McGann, Nana’s birth certificate does not list her name. However, it does name her parents, their address and other details that make me confident I have the correct birth record.[1] Her baptismal certificate records her full name: Catherine Josephine Spencer.[2]
Before she married, Nana worked as a jeweler. The family story is that when she got engaged, her boss told her to design her own engagement ring and he would give it to her as a wedding present. My sister inherited that ring and it is quite beautiful!
Nana was one of three children born to Charles and Mary. Sadly, her two brothers, Charles and Herbert, died in their twenties.[3] She married Charles P. Maier, Jr., when she was thirty and they had two children: my mom and my uncle (see Week 24 for this grandfather & Week 10 for this uncle). Charles was an electrician and also owned a tavern in Newark. Catherine was listed in the city directories as the vice-president and secretary of the company, Charles P. Maier, Inc.[4]
Nana’s husband died in 1953 when she was sixty-two. He had been living in Canada with his mother for some time prior to his death because of the superior health-care system there. Living on her own for many years, she sometimes took in boarders to make ends meet. I inherited a couple ceramic jars from her and the story was that these were a gift from one of her boarders, a ship’s captain. I have no idea if that is true and the jars have no markings on them to indicate their origin. I love them regardless.
We grandkids would spend lots of time over at Nana’s house. I remember loving it there as I had no competition from three rowdy brothers and a little sister. Her house was super close to my elementary school, so I liked to stay there in the wintertime because the walk was shorter. She moved in with my family in 1969 and lived with us until her death in 1975.[5]
Catherine lost her only son, Charles Jr., in 1964 when he was thirty-seven.[6] After losing her brothers at an early age, this must have been an especially painful blow. On the anniversary of his death, she would go to morning mass and then spend the rest of the day home, with the shades drawn, crying. One or more of her grandchildren would stay with her that day to keep her company and tend to her needs. Even as a child I could see how painful it was for her to lose a child. My brother-in-law and his wife just lost their only son a few months ago and their courage, strength, and composure is amazing. My heart breaks for them as it did for my Nana all those years ago.
While she could be as hard as nails, my memory is that Nana was loved by nearly everyone who knew her.[7] When I was a teenager, I took Catherine as my confirmation name to honor her. A beautiful woman, inside and out, some of her grandchildren and great-grandchildren are blessed to have inherited her crafting abilities, especially her great-granddaughter, Becca, who is especially gifted.
[1] New Jersey Births and Christenings, 1660-1980, “Births Atlantic-Essex,” volume 34, 1890-1891, Spencer, 13 April 1891; FamilySearch, FHL microfilm 494,216.
[2] St. Columbia’s Church, Newark New Jersey, 17 September 1953, Certificate of Baptism, Catherine Josephine Spencer, 1 November 1891; citing Baptismal Register of the church [presumably this was obtained in preparation for her daughter’s marriage later in 1953].
[3] Holy Sepulchre Cemetery (East Orange, New Jersey), burial card for Charles B. Spencer (1908); digital image, FamilySearch (https://www.familysearch.org/search/film/007900345?cat=230108 : accessed at Family History Library affiliate 25 July 2018), FHL microfilm 007900345, image 2704 of 5736. Find A Grave, database with images (http://www.findagrave.com : accessed 6 December 2019), memorial 69974638, Herbert J. Spencer (1897-1918), Holy Sepulchre Cemetery, East Orange, New Jersey; gravestone photograph by Cecelia Baty.
[4] Newark Directory, 1938 (Newark: The Price & Lee Co., 1938), 796; digital image, “U.S. City Directories, 1822-1995,” Ancestry (http://www.ancestry.com : accessed 6 December 2019), image 409 of 778.
[5] Orange Health Department, Orange, New Jersey, certificate of death no. 799, Catherine J. Maier, 26 November 1975. Maplewood Library, “Real Estate Files of Jacqueline Kuett Faupel,” 19 Girard Place (http://www.digifind-it.com/maplewood/data/realestate/GIRARD%20PLACE/19%20GIRARD%20PLACE.pdf : accessed 6 December 2019).
[6] Vermont Department of Health, copy of certificate of death no. [?]3027, Rev. Charles P. Maier, 21 August 1964; digital image, “Vermont, Death Records, 1909-2008,” Ancestry (http://www.ancestry.com : accessed 6 December 2019), image 1159 of 2718; citing Vermont State Archives and Records Administration, Montpelier, User Box No.: PR-02116, Roll No.: S-31379, Archive No.: PR-1369-1370.
[7] Full disclosure – her son-in-law not so much.